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Courage Over Comfort: How To Overcome Fear When Leading Others

Overcome Fear When Leading

Any executive knows that the role of leadership isn’t generally as glamorous as others might assume. One of the primary roles of a leader is to make and execute hard decisions. Overcome Fear When Leading and making hard decisions often means that others will get hurt or disagree with you, resulting in confrontation and discomfort.

Yet having the courage to willingly approach confrontations is one of the most important skills of a leader. When this skill is lacking, bigger problems arise over time. In our research, this has been a recurring theme. Because of our neurological wiring for empathy, it is easier for us to smile and agree with others than to openly disagree and cause a confrontation. As a result, many companies are hampered by a “culture of niceness” that unintentionally prevents people from raising dissenting points of view. Although on the outside this may seem great – look, everybody is friendly and happy! – it’s not. Instead, inauthentic agreeability slows innovation, inhibits psychological safety, and hurts overall performance.

Mastering courage is foundational to being a wise compassionate leader — the most effective leadership style, according to the research collected for our newest book. Wise compassionate leaders are able to do the hard things of leadership in a human way, resulting in higher levels of engagement, performance, loyalty, and well-being for their people. But this isn’t the way that many lead. So what exactly keeps a leader from choosing the courageous path?

Courage Versus Comfort

As human beings, we are all comfort seekers. Yes, we like to challenge ourselves and enjoy experiencing something new. But in reality, our brains are wired to seek comfort – to take the easy path and not rock the boat – because it is safer.

Overcoming our comfort-seeking orientation requires courage. Courage is different from fearlessness. With courage, we still experience fear, dread or concern. But courage is the inner strength to overcome our fear so we can take needed action or engage in a necessary confrontation.

If we want to become more compassionate leaders, we need to develop and manifest courage. Wise compassionate leaders do not hide. They do not point their fingers at others and shirk responsibility. They do not avoid the hard things or difficult decisions. Instead, they speak up when necessary and live their values. It is easy to stay in our comfort zone. But it is only when we get out of our comfort zone, embrace vulnerability, and find the courage to do hard things and face inevitable confrontations that we can be truly effective leaders.

The Courage to Be Vulnerable

It’s not just courage that we need to become the best leaders; it’s how we put that courage into practice. Vulnerability is a courageous act and the foundation of choosing courage over comfort. We can see other perspectives and more easily connect with people by being vulnerable, but vulnerability is often seen as a weakness. No one likes to expose their flaws. But when we have the courage to be vulnerable, we open a door to truly human connection. As leaders, we don’t have all the answers. We don’t always know the right thing to do, and we make mistakes. When we are vulnerable, we allow people to see our humility and our humanity. It creates opportunities for others to be vulnerable, too.

Courageous Confrontations

Once you open yourself up to vulnerability, then comes the next hard step: welcoming confrontation. If you cannot readily face conflict, you hinder your performance, negatively impact your career progress, and negatively impact the performance of your team or organization.

Confrontation is an emotionally loaded word for many of us, but it doesn’t need to be. The essence of a confrontation is the friction, no matter how slight, between two or more parties, based on opposing views. Confrontations can be anything from a subtle disagreement to addressing issues of perceived discrimination, bullying, or harassment.

But confrontations can be positive. If well managed, they are vital to increasing understanding, enhancing innovation, and implementing cultural change. To better develop wise compassionate leadership, it is important to recognize the fact that confrontations in themselves are not inherently negative. They only become negative when handled in unskillful ways – or when not handled at all. Confrontations, at their core, are merely expressions of two diverse points of views. When we enter confrontations with courage and an open mind, we can learn and grow. In this way, confrontation should be seen as an opportunity. Opposing views create new thinking, and new thinking often leads to progress.

Overcome Fear When Leading

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